In the United States it’s predicted
that 40-60% of all current marriages will end in
divorce. In Boulder county alone approximately
2500 adults and countless children are affected by
divorce each year. Years ago, divorce was unusual.
Now, it’s normalized by the frequency of occurrence in
the population.
The energy that surrounds “divorce as
usual” as in the traditional litigated divorce often creates
pain and hurt between people who once considered one another
family. In the beginning of a relationship often the best of
each partner is reflected in the other (love, pleasure, joy,
passion); the energy is positive and creative. But often in the
ending of a relationship the energy is the opposite (hurt and
pain). All too often it comes out in the energy of
adversarial blame; at it’s worse it’s hurtful, abusive, and
violent.
Too often:
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Adversarial blame surrounds the
separation and divorce process.
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Divorced parents carry negative
energy towards the other for years.
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Children's development is
affected by this negative energy.
I take my
role as alternative dispute resolution professional seriously.
Whether in the role of mediator or coach, I bring skills that
assist in the prevention of adversarial damage to the parties in
the moment, and the children in the future. I coach you in
communication and process skills with the goal of you expressing
your needs in ways that make it most likely the other party will
both fully hear you and increase the likelihood of getting those
needs met.
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