Collaborative Divorce Coaching
Within the Collaborative Divorce teamwork model, in the role
of coach, I support the parties in dealing with the emotional
aspect of the divorce process. In this role, I work to balance
two agendas simultaneously: First, I address the emotional level
of the individuals and the process, specifically emotional
issues that may be holding up resolution of the substantive
issues. Second, I respond in any way possible to create
life-enhancing future outcomes for all family members – best
potential results from the divorce process. This creates a
“both-and” process that addresses resolution and closure on
multiple levels.
Talking to your spouse about Collaborative
Divorce
You may be
thinking, “If we didn't agree during marriage, how could we
possibly agree during divorce?” It is natural during the early
stages of a divorce to worry about how your spouse will behave
as the marriage ends. Faced with such worries you yourself have
a clear choice about how you will respond. Time after time
people who opt from the start to be guided by their best hopes
rather than their worst fears about the future have the greatest
success in getting the cooperation of the spouse they are
divorcing. Just as you have good reasons for your interest in a
collaborative divorce, so may your spouse, and it may be very
different.
Entry point into Collaborative Divorce
Unlike traditional divorce that is attorney driven,
Collaborative Divorce is client driven. The first contact may be
with the attorney, coach, or financial specialist. This suggests
that a strong concern from the parties about legal issues,
emotional issues, or financial issues guide their path of entry.
With strong concerns for emotional content or relationship of
children’s issues, some clients choose to start with a coach.
See our Resources page
for links to some excellent web sites on Collaborative
Divorce. |
